Kirill Doronin and Valentina. What makes women happy?

Good afternoon. We have a pilot project today. My task is to make you interested and to generate discussion. I want to make the content more useful. I have seen some messages saying, “I am ready”. We will be analyzing a conversation with a boy for half an hour and a conversation with a girl for another half an hour. Now we are going to do a real analysis. I see, I will put the boy on the list. Okay, you should not ask business-related questions today. The topic of the live stream is “Why do you need a husband/wife?”. The eternal topic of relationships. Now we return to the requests.

-Hi, I can’t see you. Are we going to have a live video today? She has exited.

Probably, nothing will work. It is just an experiment. Those who are ready, send a request. I really want to talk, sometimes such topics can be interesting. It is an eternal subject. That is why I decided to discuss it. I can see a request. We have three requests. I will choose randomly.

-Hello.

-Hello.

-What is your name?

-Valentina.

-I talk to everyone informally, is it convenient?

-Of course. I actually consider you to be my good friend.

-We all have secret friends. If we’re talking about that now, what do you want?

-I want to know how you manage to build relationships in the family and to run the business. I am very interested.

-You know, I actually think that I do not succeed in that. But this is not an interview, so I will be asking you. Why are you interested in that?

-I believe that a person can be successful at work and in business when he has support.

-Do you have an understanding of why you need a husband? We are discussing only relationships.

-Of course, there is warmth in the soul. -Just for the warmth?

-No, there is also an inspiration. When you are interested not only in his money but also in other things. I never live off men, I live at my own expense.

-And why?

-Well, it somehow happened so in my life. I’m not married now.

-So, everything that you have mentioned is just your imagination, right?

-Yes. I have not been married since 2010.

-Was it your decision?

-The marriage lasted for about 20 years. It had been crumbling since its foundation.

-I see. You have already understood why you need it. Is your story educational for someone else?

-Of course. I used to have old-fashioned stereotypes. I should not have dragged it behind me all those years.

-Don’t you think that you are talking stereotypically now?

- No, I have endured a lot of pain.

-Okay, why have you joined the broadcast? To talk to me or to discuss yourself?

-No, I wanted to touch you.

-Are you working with fantasy models again?

-No, not really.

-But we are talking through the screen now.

-Well, by saying “to touch” I’ve meant “to communicate”.

- Okay, are you ready to talk about yourself?

-Yes.

-Why are you talking about 20 years long destruction? Why did you put up with it for so long? What mistakes did you make?

-The first mistake is a false idea of l​ife. I thought that we should get old together and raise our grandchildren.

-How quickly have you realized that?
-I didn’t understand that. I did not realize that I had to leave. I held on.

-For what reason?

-Well, you can’t hold on to some imaginary model of marriage. You cannot set yourself an example of a marriage model.

-What model did you use as an example? Grandfather and grandmother?

-Yes. You can’t hold on to a man who earns a lot.

-Why?

-Because it interferes with your development. Another thing is that I have been thinking that “at least someone needs me.”

-When did you realize that you are amazing?

-It was only after the divorce. About 3 years have passed.

-At first, you just got divorced, and then you started to collect yourself piece by piece.

-Yes, because that person already had a different relationship.

-I have a question. Did it humiliate you?

-I realized that only 5 years later. Only then I realized that it was humiliating. I even enjoyed being so pathetic. “Take pity on me”.

- Feels like you have been analyzing it. It is interesting in terms of the case study. What would you not allow at all and at what moment?

-You know, I have realized that I got married by mistake. I got married because he wanted me to marry him.

-Do you mean that you were inspired by the fact that he was running after you? -No, I agreed out of pity.

-Do you know that you can’t do anything out of pity? Pity provokes the desire for revenge. You create a torturer for yourself.

-Yes, he always reproached me for not loving him. He said that he loves me, but I do not. -You see, yes. I want everyone to hear why I am against the need.

-I wish someone had told me that 20 years ago. Because at some point, you no longer let men get close to you. Only for business and work.

-Is relationships between male and female necessary? -Yes.
-How do you create this relationship in your life?
-Well, I am currently dating one man. That is not a marriage. -Why isn’t that a marriage?

-He’s not 100 percent my type of man. -Does he know about it?
-Well, yes, he does.
-Why do you maintain that relationship? -I understand that I love him.

-Once again. What does love mean? That is a state of inspiration. A habit of being loved at least somehow destroys you.

-Not really. There is such a thing as aims. I have my goals, he has different goals. We will not be able to cohabit having different aims.

-Are your goals that much different? Why do you think that different aims will hinder you?

-Well, I have objectives in business. I want to build a structure. The girls have recently given me a doll. I have made a wish to achieve the 10th star. I want to grow very much.

-And what is his aim?

-Just to work.

-Why are you not satisfied with that?

-I am. But I will go on business trips for some time. He wants me to be at home. When you are always in public, and another person is at home, your interests are different.

-I want to say that you can create an agreement. You love him, he is important to you, his comfort is important to you. You can tell him about it. You also have the right to the same life.

-Well, yes. When you do not have common conversation topics, you start distancing. -It hasn’t happened yet, and you are already thinking about it.

-Yes.

-Everything will happen in accordance with what you will do. We often experience events that haven’t happened yet. The thing is that you start drawing what will happen.

-I understand what he enjoys. We stay at home and do not go anywhere. -So, now is the best time for him.
-Yes, I am getting bored now.
-Do not devote yourself to anyone.

-Basically, nothing stops me.
-What conclusions did you draw in this half an hour?

-For me, it was an insight that when you do something out of pity, it will be followed by revenge.

-And finally, what kind of warmth could you give your man today?

-Well, today I will not be able to see him. If he comes over, I will prove that I love him.

-Let it be an action.

-I will write him a letter saying that he is very nice. That he has changed my life and made it bright.

-You should tell him about what inspires you. Do it through one characteristic. Thank you for joining us.

-I am very happy, thank you.

-Bye-bye.
Today it was quite chaotic. From now on I will be preparing better. If some man is ready, let’s discuss this topic. We will work on this. Thank you very much.

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